1. He asked if a long time friend of the families "Frank" whom I had not spoken to in nearly a year, but one day he called me up and wanted to see me. On boxing day, just before we were to leave the house. Tom said "how do you think Frank thinks of you?" and "do you actually look at him as a friend?" and "do you think that he may not always like have the same conversations over and over again, about your dad? and your childhood?" Meanwhile, Frank mentioned my dad by saying I miss him. He was my dad's best friend. My dad was tragically hit by a car and eventually lost his life 4 yrs ago. I don't know why Tom said it, other than to make me feel bad. Not to mention, that during the time of my dad's death. Tom did not sit with me endlessly in ICU, hoping and hoping he would make it. Instead, he worked and worked some more. Other than driving me around, he really wasn't that great to me during that time and neither were his parents.
2. When I asked him, what he would like for dinner, he said "Chicken Parmessan" I laughed and said sarcastically "yeah, I will get right on that!" Then he said "I am thinking of other things to say that would be impossible for you to make." Meanwhile, I have made fancy dishes many times before, but he does not remember it or would not say anything nice if he did notice it.
3. When I wanted to paint the basement wall, he made a comment that we would not last, our marriage because I can not paint and he did not paint with me and did not want to paint with me.
4. He said when I came to him with the idea at my son's request to build a giant lego guy in our son's room. He said that he would do it because he wants it accurate and he knows I would not do a good job. He wants the exact measurements. That I can understand, but when I wanted to paint in the black and outline, he said he doesn't want me to screw it up.
5. He has said over and over again in our marriage that he does not think I can do anything. I am dependent on him. He does not trust me.
6. In front of our son, he said that he does not trust me and he does not believe me. He said this in regards to me helping our son with building lego.
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